When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelop them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions.

If you have no enemies, find a way to make them. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. Law 2: Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemiesīe wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. Never take your position for granted and never let any favors you receive go to your head. When it comes to power, outshining the master is perhaps the worst mistake of all. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite-inspire fear and insecurity. Leaving things to chance is a recipe for disaster, and reveals that we do not take love and romance very seriously.Īlways make those above you feel comfortably superior. What will seduce a person is the effort we expend on their behalf, showing how much we care, how much they are worth. People are drawn to those who expect a lot out of life, whereas they tend to disrespect those who are fearful and undemanding. The lesson is simple: it may be too late to be spoiled by a parent, but it is never too late to make other people spoil you. They have none of most people’s ugly qualities-nagging, complaining, self-assertion. Finally Charmers are pleasant to be around. Second, they seem to be interested in us, and their interest is so delightfully focused that we relax and open up to them. First, they don’t talk much about themselves, which heightens their mystery and disguises their limitations. The first step in building up presence of mind is to see the need for it - to want it badly enough to be willing to work for it. Like any discipline, it can come only through practice, experience, even a little suffering. No one can teach you this skill you cannot learn it by reading about it. What makes your mind stronger, and more able to control your emotions, is internal discipline and toughness. What best equips you to cope with tthe heat of battle is neither more knowledge nor more intellect. But you become aware of this weakness only in moments of adversity-precisely the time when you need strength. Understand: your mind is weaker than your emotions.

The 48 laws of power law 4